How Did It Ever Get This Way?
Once upon a time everything in Love-Land was oh so perfect, so sublime and so heavenly! Life with my loved one was absolute ecstasy and felt like ultimate fulfillment and total bliss. I thought I had found my true soul mate and my reason for being alive! Boy was I wrong! How in the hell did it turn into such total rat shit? And wtf did I do that was so wrong?
Stranger than Fiction
You give your heart and your soul, you dedicate yourself, and you give everything. You share all of your internal and external resources and you put your life on the line. When you feel like you’ve found your once in a life time soul mate, everything you do is centered in the roots of love that connect you with what you believe is your true purpose in life. This brings the greatest joy and fulfillment you have ever experienced. There is nothing you wouldn’t do for your love, and you do it gladly because you have faith in them. You believe they too are feeling and sharing this experience with you every step of the way and the joy this gives you surpasses the pleasure of anything you’ve ever experienced with any other human being before.
Under these circumstances, how is it even remotely possible for them to be in your arms one minute and then later that same day, or the next day, sneak out and be intimate with someone else behind your back as though you were totally insignificant to them? This happens much more than you would like to imagine. The deception is extremely confusing to say the least, and it’s an extremely painful gut wrencher for sure, especially when you find out it’s been going on behind your back for years! Sadly enough, this is for real. Or should I say it’s surreal? The Fact is; Truth is Much Stranger than Fiction.
Higher Learning
How does your loved one become so complacent and unappreciative and cold hearted in the first place? This is in such total contrast to the warmth and love that you have in your heart for them and thought they shared with you. How could they be so blind as not to see how important of a place they hold in your heart? Why do they not see how you’ve worshiped and supported them, and how you love them with a heart that’s pure and true? What could possibly have gone so horribly wrong? What am I missing? I cannot for the life of me figure it out! She did love me once upon a time didn’t she? Maybe not, or if she did it was a selfish love too shallow to be true or to stand the test of time.
The funny thing is, in her opinion, the affair was apparently something I caused, and it’s really all my fault. If that isn’t a mind blower! What’s even stranger is that she is a Psychology major studying for her Masters! If she did a case study on herself, she might make some kind of a discovery that could change the field of psychology forever and win her the Nobel Peace Prize! It demonstrates the value of an education in my view. It’s not really all that useful if you don’t apply it.
What Gets In The Way and Where to Next?
Why do our loved ones turn their backs and walk away? How can this be? And worse yet, how in the face of all this love and attention and gifts of love that you shower upon them, could they possibly engage in an affair outside of your relationship and sneak behind your back for years, while at the same time they keep playing you for everything they can get? It is absolutely earth shattering when you come to the realization that this is exactly what has happened to you. Talk about feeling used and having the rug pulled out from under your feet! How can the dearest love you have ever known in your entire life turn out to totally betray you and lie to you like this? It seems like a bad dream when your loved one turns on you like this, but the fact is it happens and this is real life!
The deep anguish, disillusionment, total heartbreak and confusion that this causes feels absolutely insurmountable. Even so, in spite of everything that is happening, ironically, you still feel a love for this person somewhere deep inside of you and the feelings come right up to the surface some times. Maybe this is why it hurts so much? At the center of your soul you are love, and so you give love because it’s who you are and it’s what you are. There really is no choice in the matter; it just is. However, when you have been betrayed like this, the rejection of your most intimate self given freely as a gift to your loved one is something that is extremely painful and so hard to get over.
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