Implications Of An Affair
Cheaters are looking for silver bullet solutions that will make them feel fulfilled and happy. Some may say cheaters are only looking for real love, and while that may be true to an extent, it is the love of self that they are really looking for. Love of self must be intact before going outward to look for love anywhere else! As the saying goes, if you can’t love yourself, who can you love?
With true self love intact, chances are slim to none that a person would ever become dishonest, to the extent that they would lie to their partner and cheat on them. Doing so means you also lie and cheat on yourself, which is impossible to do if you really loved yourself in the first place! I guess that calls for a little bit of pity or understanding of the cheater, but none the less true.
In reality, short cut solutions to momentary pleasure and self satisfaction only make what’s really happening on the inside worse. Cheater’s desire to get out of their own skin and covertly live a different version of their lives is stimulated by self deception and defies sound logic. It may be a very tempting fantasy, but in the end, not only does going down this road bring pain into the life of the person cheating, but it brings a whole different breed of seemingly insurmountable pain into the life of the person being cheated on. Think it’s worth it? Think again!
Having an Affair is a Symptom of Much Greater Problems
The result of having an affair only compounds the problems that live within a person’s heart. Have you ever had a horrendous bruise or maybe a broken bone that hurts like hell at just the slightest touch? Well, finding out that your partner is cheating breaks your heart, bruises your soul and hurts so much more than that… looses when our partners act so blindly and selfishly. The pain and suffering it causes goes beyond all compare. It is because of this that the struggle to rise above the tragedy and pain of discovering your partner is having an affair, is so difficult but you CAN find healing because THERE IS A WAY!!!
Without first confirming our suspicions and finding out what the truth really is, we are not living in reality. In reality, the truth is all there is so until you find it, you are living in a lie or at least in a lower place than you deserve. Therefore, honesty should be foremost in our minds and in our hearts at all times as we seek to know what the truth really is and build our lives upon its firm foundation. Only in this way can true love come to fruition through us, enhance our own lives and bring fulfillment and peace.
What we want to be and have is Love, Security and Happiness, and what we want to give is Love, Security and Happiness! First though, realize that nobody can give this to you but your own self, and until we do this, insecurity and self deception will prevail, obscuring reality, and therefor eliminates the possibility of true self realization and personal growth. Only stagnation, discontent and suffering will prevail…
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Finding out you have a cheating partner is not a dead end. This is really just the fist step towards living in the truth, all be it, a gigantic first step…
The state of our physical and mental well-being is a reflection of the truth we are giving power to!