Do Not Expect A Return On Your Emotional Investment
When you love someone very deeply, do you think of it as an emotional investment? In terms of money, an investment is made so a return can be earned. Do you consider the time, the effort and the emotions that you spend on a person as that – an investment, which requires a return over time?
This is probably one of the biggest mistakes that you can make if you are in a relationship. If you are in a marriage or in a committed relationship, it is true that you and your partner should be on equal ground when it comes to the emotions that you are ‘investing’ in each other. However, it is really a better decision all the way round if you do not expect a return and give freely with no strings attached. Give to do good, do not give to get because at the end of the day, giving to get is a form of selfishness and opens you up to great disappointment when those you are giving to do not return what you are expecting. To have unwarranted expectations based on self centered motives is simply setting yourself up for failure.
Tried and True Solutions
As cliché as it may sound, giving is better than receiving. Does it cost you anything at all to appreciate your partner and sincerely give them compliments? Would it hurt to surprise your wife or girlfriend with a romantic gesture every now and then? Or what would it hurt to compliment and show signs of appreciation to your man instead of pointing out only what you find displeasing? Would it require a lot of effort to make sure that you have some quality time to spend with your significant other? Does it not make sense to rearrange your priorities and give your loved one a higher level of importance?
When you generously give these types of gestures without expecting anything in return, you might just be surprised with the results. This is simply because your partner will feel loved and appreciated in a real way. When you make sure you are exerting every effort to make the relationship work, your partner will most ususally see that and respond in kind without your having to ask.
Eternal Love Tonic
By consistently giving tangible love to another, you will find that to cherish is to be cherished. It is natural when you shower somebody with love, attention and understanding, this creates the most fertile breeding ground for love that there is. This causes the one receiving such love to want to return it in order to receive more. It feeds both the ego and the spirit in a circular motion and draws your loved one close to you. Love like this will continue to grow if you consistently nuture it because it feels so good to be loved and also to give love in return, which makes the love grow stronger.
If You Don’t Receive Anything Back…
Let’s say that you have followed the golden rule that it is better to give than to receive, and you did it generously as described above. After some time, if you feel that your efforts have still not paid off, it might be high time to take a closer look at your partner’s actions.
Make sure that you are not turning a blind eye to what is in front of you. As sad as it may seem, when your partner or husband is cheating, you are usually the last one to know. To help you with discernment and discovery you can access the free report on this blog or go to http://infidelity-concerns.com/ for more detailed information on the subject things you can do that will help you.
At the end of the day, building a strong relationship is a two-way street: it takes an effort from both sides. However, remember that when you give, don’t consider it as an emotional investment to which you expect something in return. Give generously. If your partner returns the feelings, what you invested will naturally come to you.
Otherwise, you might be the only one who is trying to make the relationship work, and it’s time to assess things with an objective eye.